I tell my husband that I need to blog everyday, but I cannot do it everyday. There are apparently rules for effective blogging, and I follow none of them. Here are some things I learned on Pinterest about blogging that I totally fail at.
1. Blog consistently. – I have a chronic illness. I never know what the day will bring, and I suffer from anxiety, meaning some days I cannot put myself out there. It’s too hard. I’m too worried about what people will think or say. Recent newsworthy events show me I am not alone in my struggles with anxiety and depression, but there are many that think I should keep it to myself.
2. Use visuals. – I suck at drawing and have no clue how to create graphics. It is something I am learning, but I don’t even know how to use my camera well. I also managed to delete many of my current photos while trying to get my computer to work, and so I am out of luck.
3. Be positive. – My life is HARD! I have multiple medical conditions, we are declaring bankruptcy, my son is autistic and has ADHD. Where in all that do I get the time, money or ability to have happy family trips, simple craft days, or any of the other fun mommy blogging stuff. Not to mention the fact that we failed at adopting, and I cannot have any more kids, and I can’t keep a job so my husband works two or more.
So, here’s the sum-up. I want this blog to be interesting and full of graphics and stuff you can use. It won’t be. At least not always, and I need to be okay with that, and I will find new readers if you aren’t okay with that. Thing is, being something I am not only makes everyone miserable. There are so many blogs that have fun crafts and recipes. That isn’t me. It might be me sometime, but right now we are illness, autism, school issues, money trouble, and a whole lot of other day-to-day not so fun drama. I spent the weekend in the hospital for a urinary tract infection that I have had for months! The antibiotics I have been given are making me sick and tired. Plus I have chronic migraines that just make the rest of the world so much fun. I want to be the happy homemaker. I am not. I can only blog my truth, and I pray that there is an audience, and a purpose to this suffering. I will have a ton more on the medical side at my new blog Medical Soup.
I have a lot to say about medicine and what I have learned, but it isn’t going to be here. Here is the more emotional, family related struggle. Here are my happy days, and my sad days. I realized that no one can read my blog if I don’t write, so I will write, and we will see. If don’t write, I don’t have a blog. It won’t be happy, and it can’t be perfect, but nobody is, and any blog or person who seems that way is filtering. I lack a filter. 🙂 Thanks for being loyal readers, and look forward to giveaways and other fun stuff to come.
4 thoughts on “How to Kill a Blog! OR Where oh Where Have my Readers Gone?”
I just entered the Fall Fashionista giveaway but your post is messed up and there’s no comment area, I think you have broken code in there somewhere.
Here is my comment entry since I can’t leave it on that post:
My fave Sorella dress is the Ivy one!
I am the husband. My wife tries hard, but life does not let people be cutesy. She is a smart and well educated person when it comes to medical issues. We have lived through a lot in the past 10 years of marriage. We have had a major surgery every other year, gone to every major medical institution in our driving range ( most of the time these are our vacations), had a ER visit every other month, and have tons of medical bills from the half dozen or more doctors we have to see. Through all of this I love my wife and will work whatever jobs I must to keep us going ( I’m a school teacher so of course I’m in it for the money).
We have lived through a lot and have experience in life. We are not broken we are bent, bruised, down trodden, and sometimes on a brink or two, but never done. I will help my wife to post as much as I can. Keep reading please
I actually prefer a blog that does just that- blogs. I don’t want cutesy pics or graphics and don’t need any more recipes at this time- i have more than enough saved to work on going through for months, if not years to come. What I like is realness. I want to hear about family and life and struggles, to know I’m not alone in finding my way in this world.
I also don’t have time to read blogs daily so the fact that you don’t post blogs every day is fine.
Can I just say though- that what is frustrating is when people have more than one blog? Why not have the medical writings in with this? I almost resent being made to subscribe to two or more blog sites from the same person. (Being made meaning not forced, but if I am a fan I want to follow)
So ((hugs)) to you. As a fellow sufferer of panic/anxiety disorder, I get it. And look forward to seeing a glimpse of your journey.
The reason for more than one blog is purely a mechanism of the blogging world. For google and other sites to rate you, it helps if you blog in a niche. I will probably put all the medical crap here too. I just wanted another place where there weren’t giveaways and where people could go for the more detailed medical information. Sometimes it is too much for a casual reader, and sometimes I really want to put together research and other information that I just feel would be more appropriate elsewhere, but I will probably end up putting it all in one place, because honestly, I don’t have the energy to maintain more than one blog. 🙂